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5 reasons To Never Download A Dating App

There is no shame in the game, but as someone who used Bumble and Hinge for several weeks, I can assure you that it’s not worth the phone storage. Dating apps are the epitome of why people have trust issues and why people don’t believe in love anymore. Therefore, to protect everyone’s virtuous hearts, here are five reasons to stop you from downloading a dating app. 

1. You’re seen as a Hook Up 

Honesty is important in a relationship, and this is why I am telling you that the majority of the time people just want to hook up. Somewhere along the way, dating apps became the modern-age version of going to find someone at a bar to take home. The problem with dating apps is that people don’t use them for the right reasons— so please don’t fall for those romantic pick-up lines. And if someone says “let’s go out at night,”  run for the hills! 

2. You Don’t Need Validation From Strangers 

Dating apps mess with your mindset, because instead of trying to find love, you just want to feel validated. According to The New York Times article, “Trying to Feel Love-Worthy (While Working for a Dating App),” women specifically would question if they are pretty and smart enough. You put yourself on this platform with thousands of users, and the expectation is to be praised to fulfill the love you want. Sometimes it’s discouraging to not get the attention you imagined you would get and it often lowers your self-esteem. Logging in to a dating app is just a toxic cycle, because you’re not looking for love but rather validation for your appearance. 

3. Stay Optimistic, Love Exists But Not Online 

The concept of a dating app is clever, but it demolishes the idea of “Old Fashion Love.” There may be a few lucky people who found their soulmates online, but love is not a swipe right or left— it’s the physical and emotional action of going out of your way to talk to that person. When love strikes, we should be appreciated for who we are, and not for being arm candy. 

4. Just Run Away, You Are Looking for Trouble

As a retired user of Bumble and Hinge, I can assure you that at least a quarter of the people have the audacity to cheat on their beautiful partner. Therefore, beware of all the red flags, because we filter our profile to attract the attention of the thousands of users. Ladies and gentlemen, if you see someone who should not be on the site, do everyone a favor and report them.

5. You will get bored and realize everyone is the same 

I’m not going to lie, dating apps are fun for about one or two weeks then they become boring. Many people, especially guys, use the same pick-up lines or just don’t know how to keep the connection going. You soon start to realize that there is no point in having a dating app. Also, you don’t always end up meeting them, and they are probably bored too trying to procrastinate their responsibilities. 

Although the majority of y’all are adults, take it from an ex-user, dating apps are not the place to find love. Instead, wear a mask and go on the streets to find your happily ever after. 

Dating Profile Dos and Don’ts For Guys to Get the Girl

With Hot Girl Summer— or rather, Hot Boy Summer— about to be in full swing, it’s time to get those dating profiles updated. This is the summer to get vaccinated and finally get out of the house to meet some new people and have some honest fun. I’m sure you’ve been swiping left and right all pandemic out of boredom, but it’s time to get rid of the fish pics and smile a little to get a girl to swipe right and start a conversation.

So, here are some dos and don’ts for the guys to make the ultimate Tinder profile and find true love (or whatever else you’re looking for, I don’t judge.)

1. DO Smile

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The amount of guys who glare back at me from mine and my friend’s Tinders is a little unnerving. Use the muscles on the side of your face and smile— just a little. It won’t hurt your masculinity, I promise, but it will make you look like you’re not dead inside, and will definitely increase your chances of getting a match.

2. DON’T Use The Fish Pic

We get it. You fish and hunt and think displaying dead animals is a sign of your machoness. But it’s really just a verified way to get the majority of girls swiping left. While some girls might be into hunting too, the majority are probably just going to be really upset that you killed Nemo, or Bambi and move on.

3. DO Fill Out Your Bio

The amount of men who post three photos and no bio and wonder why they never get a match is astonishing. If you have a cute face but nothing in your bio, it’s more likely to get a left swipe. Yeah, some girls will swipe right due to the initial attraction, but unless you’re both just looking for a hookup it’s more than likely you won’t be getting that match notification very often.

Use this place to put some interests, hobbies, work, school— anything that could spark a conversation. Maybe fun facts, or even just putting your intentions out there so when you get a match you both can start off on the same page.

4. DON’T Be Rude In Your Bio

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Saying things like “no fatties” is actually going to get you no one. If you have preferences that’s fine, use them when you are judging and swiping, but don’t list your perfect dream girl in your bio and tell specific girls not to swipe right. It looks rude and just keeps everyone away.

5. DO Get Those Good Angles

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While photos aren’t everything, they are the first thing girls see. And that first photo is going to decide whether she stays and checks you out, or swipes left. At the bare minimum, it should give off “High School Picture Day” vibes, framed with your head and shoulders in view. Good lighting is also a must so we can actually see what you look like. 

Don’t forget to use photos that show your whole self, not just your face. Add some goofy pics, photos with friends, or even pets! Just be sure to lead with one of just you, especially if you and your friends all look alike (I’m talking to you, blonde-haired, blue-eyed Alpha beta Sigma Phi boys).

6. DON’T Get Those Bad Angles

I’m not sure why so many guys think flipping off the camera is a cute photo to put on a dating app, but I can promise you it’s not. Don’t make every photo half your face, don’t use Snapchat filters in all of them, and definitely don’t put your middle finger up. It doesn’t look too good. I guess if you’re trying to be a “bad boy” it gets the message across, but I promise the majority of women are not looking for Mr. Bad Boy.

7. DO Post Several Photos

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The amount of times I have clicked for another photo to get a better look at a guy only to realize they only have one is extremely disappointing. I would recommend at the very least have three different angles in your photos, but try to go for five or six. This helps girls get a better idea of who they’re swiping right on, and most of the time if there’s only one photo girls will just swipe left.

8. DON’T Post The Photo With Your Ex

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Again, not sure what you guys are thinking here. Seeing a photo of you with your arms around another girl does not give off a great vibe on a dating app. And it just looks shallow to cross her face out with an X or put an emoji over it. Take some good photos on your own and with your friends. don’t rely on the pics with your ex.

9. DO Be Yourself

It might seem cliche or cheesy, but too many people overthink the dating game and try way too hard. More than anything, dating apps are a place to get to know people in hopes you will be spending time with them in real life (with any luck, more than once). It’s important to be yourself when you’re creating your profile instead of trying to come up with some persona you think will reel in the ladies. I promise, if they swipe right, they want to get to know you.

10. DON’T Be Arrogant

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The shirtless pictures and acknowledgment that you’re super cool actually isn’t cool at all. Don’t spend all your photos posing in front of a mirror flexing your muscles, and don’t write in your bio about how amazing you’d be. I promise we won’t think you’re amazing, and you will get a swift left swipe. If you just be yourself, there’s a much better chance girls will like you.

So, as summer starts and the CDC begins to loosen their COVID guidelines, go ahead and get those profiles polished and ready. I guarantee if you follow these tips it’ll help your dating game, and hopefully get you those matches you’re looking for. Happy swiping.

Everything wrong with your tinder profile

It’s that special time of year again: plastic roses are in full bloom next to the cashier and a whole aisle at our campus CVS is littered with teddy bears and “be mine” candies, all in boisterous red and pink hues. Valentine’s Day lies right around the corner and for those of us not already in a relationship, the holiday goes by quite unnoticed – or so we’d like to think. Leading up to the date many of us singles are subconsciously thinking of how nice a relationship would be. Looking to shoot our shot, we download a dating app and begin the vigorous mindless swiping marathon. (Because who has the sheer gall to talk to someone in real life nowadays?)

I’m not saying that finding love on a dating app is impossible, it is just very difficult to do – especially when flipping through dozens of terrible profiles. Let’s face it, when making a profile none of us actually know what we’re doing, least of all straight boys. Sorry to pick on you my good heterosexual males, but I have seen some reoccurring trends that need to be stopped. (The straights are once again in dire straits) According to a report by Time Magazine, men swipe right on Tinder 46 percent of the time and women only swipe right 14 percent of the time. So according to my calculations, y’all need all the help you can get. Here is a guide to dating profiles if you’re actually looking to go on a date:

1.Bios are NOT optional

All right, so I recognize that dating apps are also used for a myriad of reasons other than seriously dating, but for those of you actually looking to find a relationship a bio is a MUST! Who are you? What do you like? Give us a conversation starter so we actually know we have something in common rather than diving in with a bland “hey.”

2.Dogs

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When I first downloaded Tinder I had no idea what to expect, but I certainty did not expect to see so many cute pets. I think I have seen more pictures of dogs than I have of actual human beings on a dating app. Of course I am not advocating that you get rid of your pet pics because let’s face it, having a cute pet really does boost interest, but don’t let your pet be the first image we see. I am sure your doggo is the goodest of all the good boi’s, but we are trying to determine if YOU are the good boi.

3.Get RID of those prom dates and ex girlfriends

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 I think it’s awesome that you can prove that you have the social skills to acquire a girlfriend/date, but please don’t have your arm wrapped around some anonymous girl from your past in every single photo. If you’re looking to date someone, you want the focus to be on you in your profile instead of redirecting everyone’s attention to the questions of “who is she?” and “was it recent?” A clever way to skirt around this is to block em’ out and have that classic “this could be you” caption. Overused, but still entertaining nonetheless.

4.The Party Pics

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Having an active social life is a great quality to flex in your profile and it can also let you match with people who have a similar taste for partying. However, if you are clinging to a liquor bottle, suspicious red solo cups, and fat cigars in EVERY single one of your photos, I am going to assume that you’ve got some problems.

5.The Group Pics

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Like the classic party photo, group photos are also a great way to express that you do indeed have a social life, but make sure that your profile isn’t a game of “Where’s Waldo?” Have more photos of just yourself rather than a group.

6.Smile

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Okay, so I know a lot of you Tinder boys like to hit em’ with that Flynn Rider smolder (I’m not complaining) but if you are not smiling in at least one photo, I can’t trust that you actually have teeth.

7.BEWARE of the HAIR

We see a guy who catches our eye. We swiftly tap for more photos. Oh yes he has a camera: he’s artsy. *scrolls to next photo * He’s looking off into the distance: he’s thoughtful. He’s…THE PRINGLES MAN?!

If you go through multiple phases of facial hair or dramatic hairstyles in general, let a girl know which one is the most recent, thanks.

8.Pixelated images

While life may be like a box of chocolates where you never know what you’re going to get, I bet a lot of us would really like to know what to expect when going on a date. Do the bare minimum and make sure that your face is actually visible!

9.Ditch the sunglasses

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So fun fact: sunglasses make your face more symmetrical and therefore more attractive, but that doesn’t mean that you should be wearing them in every single photo. You’re not a superhero; so don’t mask your identity.

10.Stop writing that you’re a feminist

I’m so glad that you believe women should have equal rights, but that should be the standard for all decent human beings – not your selling point.

11.The “Um…is that your baby?” photo

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Usually if I see a guy getting along with small children my ovaries do a backflip, but in the case of a dating profile it would be nice to know whether or not THAT particular baby is yours.