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5 reasons To Never Download A Dating App

There is no shame in the game, but as someone who used Bumble and Hinge for several weeks, I can assure you that it’s not worth the phone storage. Dating apps are the epitome of why people have trust issues and why people don’t believe in love anymore. Therefore, to protect everyone’s virtuous hearts, here are five reasons to stop you from downloading a dating app. 

1. You’re seen as a Hook Up 

Honesty is important in a relationship, and this is why I am telling you that the majority of the time people just want to hook up. Somewhere along the way, dating apps became the modern-age version of going to find someone at a bar to take home. The problem with dating apps is that people don’t use them for the right reasons— so please don’t fall for those romantic pick-up lines. And if someone says “let’s go out at night,”  run for the hills! 

2. You Don’t Need Validation From Strangers 

Dating apps mess with your mindset, because instead of trying to find love, you just want to feel validated. According to The New York Times article, “Trying to Feel Love-Worthy (While Working for a Dating App),” women specifically would question if they are pretty and smart enough. You put yourself on this platform with thousands of users, and the expectation is to be praised to fulfill the love you want. Sometimes it’s discouraging to not get the attention you imagined you would get and it often lowers your self-esteem. Logging in to a dating app is just a toxic cycle, because you’re not looking for love but rather validation for your appearance. 

3. Stay Optimistic, Love Exists But Not Online 

The concept of a dating app is clever, but it demolishes the idea of “Old Fashion Love.” There may be a few lucky people who found their soulmates online, but love is not a swipe right or left— it’s the physical and emotional action of going out of your way to talk to that person. When love strikes, we should be appreciated for who we are, and not for being arm candy. 

4. Just Run Away, You Are Looking for Trouble

As a retired user of Bumble and Hinge, I can assure you that at least a quarter of the people have the audacity to cheat on their beautiful partner. Therefore, beware of all the red flags, because we filter our profile to attract the attention of the thousands of users. Ladies and gentlemen, if you see someone who should not be on the site, do everyone a favor and report them.

5. You will get bored and realize everyone is the same 

I’m not going to lie, dating apps are fun for about one or two weeks then they become boring. Many people, especially guys, use the same pick-up lines or just don’t know how to keep the connection going. You soon start to realize that there is no point in having a dating app. Also, you don’t always end up meeting them, and they are probably bored too trying to procrastinate their responsibilities. 

Although the majority of y’all are adults, take it from an ex-user, dating apps are not the place to find love. Instead, wear a mask and go on the streets to find your happily ever after. 

From a Podcast Novice: Here’s 5 Podcasts you Should be Listening to

From a Podcast Novice: Here’s 5 Podcasts you Should be Listening to

Over winter break, I really got into podcasts. Like, REALLY got into podcasts. Before that, I had a hard time getting into podcasts because I thought they were unnecessarily long or kind of boring. Plus, I had a bit of analysis paralysis because it seems like everyone is making podcasts these days, so it was an overwhelming endeavor to find the podcasts that I might really enjoy. If you’re new to podcasts or are a recurring podcast fanatic looking for something new, here are some of the podcasts that I’ve really enjoyed. 

  1. Dope Labs – Spotify Studios

Dope Labs is a podcast run by two female scientists who talk about trending topics from a scientific point of view. From veganism and fin-tech (financial technology) to Afro-futurism and skin-care, real-life besties Titi and Zakiya talk about the science behind some of our favorite trending topics in a way that is humorous and easy to understand regardless of your scientific knowledge. 

Average Episode Length: 35 minutes

  1. Dissect – Spotify Studios

If Genius was a podcast it would be Dissect. Dissect takes a deep dive into some of the most critically acclaimed hip hop albums in recent years. From Kendrick Lamar’s “To Pimp a Butterfly” to Beyonce’s “Lemonade”, Dissect takes one album a season and dedicates one episode per song to analyze the production, significance and reception of the musical body of work. For music heads like myself, this podcast is a great way to understand some of your favorite songs and albums on a deeper level which enriches the whole listening experience in general. 

Average Episode Length: 45 minutes

  1. Quality Queen Control by Asha Christina 

Asha Christina is like an older sister in her mid twenties giving you advice on dating, relationships, career, psychology, lifestyle and sophistication. When it comes to relationships especially, her podcast is eye-opening and motivating because she is straight forward about her advice by explaining the lessons she has learned in her past relationships. 

Average Episode Length: 30 minutes

  1. Recode Daily – Recode by Vox

This is a great podcast for people who are into tech and want a quick daily update of the latest tech news. I think this podcast is particularly interesting for UT students and anyone living in Austin right now because the Austin community, aka Silicon Hills, is heavily influenced by the tech industry, so keeping up with the latest developments in tech is of extra importance.

Average Episode Length: 9 minutes 

  1. Self Care and Chill with Maui – Amirah Morris

Amirah gives hilarious and hard-hitting dating, relationship, self-growth and life advice. This is a great podcast to listen to during any form of a self-care routine. She speaks to working towards your goals, self-care, spirituality and having healthy, fulfilling relationships. Amirah’s words are extremely motivating and she consistently encourages her audience to become better versions of themselves with each passing day.

Average Episode Length: 35 minutes

10 activities for long distance couples

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For those of us who haven’t experienced a long distance relationship, the prospect of keeping your relationship alive during what could potentially be months of self isolation seems daunting. Even if you are still choosing to see your significant other during this time, there aren’t a lot of fun date options right now. You can’t go to a movie, a restaurant, a bowling alley, don’t you dare try to go to a bar and an arcade is already unsanitary enough even without COVID-19 floating around. At the end of the day, remember that self isolation isn’t just about your own health, but the health of your community. When you’re in a relationship, staying at home instead of going out to see your partner can feel like the end of the world, but there are so many things that you can still do together without being together:

1. Play a drinking game

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If you’re still hellbent on wilding out this break, you can play all sorts of drinking games with your partner over video chatting (you can even make beer pong work.) The added bonus is that the drunk conversations will be fun and you can even skip down to item #8 on this checklist and play 20 Questions. 

2. Make mixtapes

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This is a romantic classic that never fails to make someone’s day. You can make playlists to different themes, spelling out sentences in song titles or just compiling songs that you think they’d like. Personally, I love listening to new music recommendations, especially made by someone who knows you very well. 

3. Watch movies simultaneously 

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There are plenty of websites that will allow you to do this and if your internet happens to be really good, screen sharing the movie will work just as well. Watching a movie alone is good, but reacting with your partner to the movie is much more fun. 

4. Mail a letter

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Ever heard of snail mail? While texting is always great, having something physical and handwritten to hold onto is much more memorable. You can even send them a gift or drawing! (Just don’t sneeze on anything.)

5. Set fitness goals for each other

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Doing the same workouts or setting fitness goals for one another will help you both stay motivated, connected and positive during self isolation/social distancing.

6. Play video games together

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Transport yourself from off your couch and into a virtual world to go on a quest (or just build a farm if those are your kind of games) with your partner. You can talk to each other while playing and there are so many different video games to choose from! If you need some inspiration, check out our article on some freshly released video games.

7. Write a story sentence by sentence 

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This can be a good way to pass the time and get creative with your significant other. You can expand upon an absurd plot going back and forth sentence by sentence, it’ll give you a lot of laughs and inside jokes. 

8. Play 20 Questions

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A time killer and a relationship builder, playing 20 questions will spur conversations (or confessions) that you’ve likely never had or shared before. 

9. Get artsy 

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Video chat your partner while you both try to follow a DIY video, then compare finished products. 

10. Share screens

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Share screens on your device and go on a YouTube/Tiktok/meme binge together.


Everything wrong with your tinder profile

It’s that special time of year again: plastic roses are in full bloom next to the cashier and a whole aisle at our campus CVS is littered with teddy bears and “be mine” candies, all in boisterous red and pink hues. Valentine’s Day lies right around the corner and for those of us not already in a relationship, the holiday goes by quite unnoticed – or so we’d like to think. Leading up to the date many of us singles are subconsciously thinking of how nice a relationship would be. Looking to shoot our shot, we download a dating app and begin the vigorous mindless swiping marathon. (Because who has the sheer gall to talk to someone in real life nowadays?)

I’m not saying that finding love on a dating app is impossible, it is just very difficult to do – especially when flipping through dozens of terrible profiles. Let’s face it, when making a profile none of us actually know what we’re doing, least of all straight boys. Sorry to pick on you my good heterosexual males, but I have seen some reoccurring trends that need to be stopped. (The straights are once again in dire straits) According to a report by Time Magazine, men swipe right on Tinder 46 percent of the time and women only swipe right 14 percent of the time. So according to my calculations, y’all need all the help you can get. Here is a guide to dating profiles if you’re actually looking to go on a date:

1.Bios are NOT optional

All right, so I recognize that dating apps are also used for a myriad of reasons other than seriously dating, but for those of you actually looking to find a relationship a bio is a MUST! Who are you? What do you like? Give us a conversation starter so we actually know we have something in common rather than diving in with a bland “hey.”

2.Dogs

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When I first downloaded Tinder I had no idea what to expect, but I certainty did not expect to see so many cute pets. I think I have seen more pictures of dogs than I have of actual human beings on a dating app. Of course I am not advocating that you get rid of your pet pics because let’s face it, having a cute pet really does boost interest, but don’t let your pet be the first image we see. I am sure your doggo is the goodest of all the good boi’s, but we are trying to determine if YOU are the good boi.

3.Get RID of those prom dates and ex girlfriends

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 I think it’s awesome that you can prove that you have the social skills to acquire a girlfriend/date, but please don’t have your arm wrapped around some anonymous girl from your past in every single photo. If you’re looking to date someone, you want the focus to be on you in your profile instead of redirecting everyone’s attention to the questions of “who is she?” and “was it recent?” A clever way to skirt around this is to block em’ out and have that classic “this could be you” caption. Overused, but still entertaining nonetheless.

4.The Party Pics

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Having an active social life is a great quality to flex in your profile and it can also let you match with people who have a similar taste for partying. However, if you are clinging to a liquor bottle, suspicious red solo cups, and fat cigars in EVERY single one of your photos, I am going to assume that you’ve got some problems.

5.The Group Pics

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Like the classic party photo, group photos are also a great way to express that you do indeed have a social life, but make sure that your profile isn’t a game of “Where’s Waldo?” Have more photos of just yourself rather than a group.

6.Smile

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Okay, so I know a lot of you Tinder boys like to hit em’ with that Flynn Rider smolder (I’m not complaining) but if you are not smiling in at least one photo, I can’t trust that you actually have teeth.

7.BEWARE of the HAIR

We see a guy who catches our eye. We swiftly tap for more photos. Oh yes he has a camera: he’s artsy. *scrolls to next photo * He’s looking off into the distance: he’s thoughtful. He’s…THE PRINGLES MAN?!

If you go through multiple phases of facial hair or dramatic hairstyles in general, let a girl know which one is the most recent, thanks.

8.Pixelated images

While life may be like a box of chocolates where you never know what you’re going to get, I bet a lot of us would really like to know what to expect when going on a date. Do the bare minimum and make sure that your face is actually visible!

9.Ditch the sunglasses

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So fun fact: sunglasses make your face more symmetrical and therefore more attractive, but that doesn’t mean that you should be wearing them in every single photo. You’re not a superhero; so don’t mask your identity.

10.Stop writing that you’re a feminist

I’m so glad that you believe women should have equal rights, but that should be the standard for all decent human beings – not your selling point.

11.The “Um…is that your baby?” photo

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Usually if I see a guy getting along with small children my ovaries do a backflip, but in the case of a dating profile it would be nice to know whether or not THAT particular baby is yours.